Internet commenters rallied in defense of 1 father who used money designed for his fiance’s bridal dress to displace his daughter’s broken iPad.
In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheAhole, Redditor u/No_Masterpiece7661 (otherwise known as the initial poster, or OP) said his soon-to-be stepdaughter was in charge of the damaged device and detailed the heated aftermath of his decision to right an incorrect, immediately.
Titled, “[Am I the ahole] when planning on taking money from the dress budget we’d to cover the iPad my fiance’s kid broke?” the post has received a lot more than 10,000 upvotes and 1,700 comments since September 17.
“My fiance and I are receiving married in 90 days,” OP began. “Both of us have a youngster from the previous relationship, my daughter Spencer (15F) and her daughter Emma (8F).
Continuing to describe that their children go along well, the initial poster said he purchased his daughter an iPad this past year, and that the 15-year-old brings it everywhere she goes, deploying it for creative and academic purposes.
The initial poster also said his fiance’s 8-year-old daughter recently became thinking about the iPadso much in order that rules were placed into spot to ensure these devices didn’t find yourself broken.
Unfortunately, these were significantly less than effective.
“Emma loves to sit by the stairs watching videos on my or my fiance’s phone,” OP wrote. “Five days ago, she took Spencer’s iPad and sat there.
“She got scared when she heard my fianc calling her and dropped it. It broke the screen completely and my daughter was so sad,” OP continued. “My fianc said most of her money happens to be likely to her, her [maid of honor], bridesmaids’ and mom’s dresses and I said I’ll take the amount of money from there and [buy] Spencer a fresh one.
“I assume she didn’t trust me…[but] the very next day I visited buy it and paid [with] the card we use for the marriage expenses (it has BOTH of our profit it),” OP added. “[My fiance] came at me, calling me an [ahole] and saying she’ll will have to obtain cheaper dresses…because ‘I stole from her.'”
This past year, couples in the usa spent typically $28,000 on weddings, based on the Knot’s 2021 Real Weddings Survey.
Including an gemstone, that figure jumps to an impressive $34,000.
But while ceremony and reception venues, along with catering companies, include the largest price, an ideal bridal dress will cost a fairly penny.
In 2021, 93 percent of brides-to-be elected to get new gowns, instead of deciding on a used, sentimental option. And based on the Knot’s Real Weddings Survey, the common cost of a fresh bridal dress was $1,800.
Add gowns for the maid of honor, other bridesmaids and the bride’s mother, and couples that elect to cover outfits because of their wedding party are considering a multi-thousand dollar tab for dresses alone.
However, Redditors giving an answer to the viral Reddit post were adamant that, regardless of the cost, the initial poster’s fiance must have taken financial responsibility for these devices her daughter broke. It doesn’t matter how it could affect her plans to get dresses for herself and her marriage ceremony.
“Emma broke an [iPad] she was expressly told she had not been to the touch,” Redditor u/Helia-axis wrote in the post’s top comment, which includes received a lot more than 18,000 upvotes. “You told your lover you’d be using money to displace it from the joint account.”
“Her dresses and wedding costs usually do not take precedence over other bills and obligations,” Redditor u/1moreKnife2theheart chimed in, receiving a lot more than 6,000 upvotes. “Replacing the [iPad] can be an obligation and expense. Her daughter took a thing that wasn’t hers, that she have been told on numerous occasions never to touch…and finished up breaking it.”
Redditor u/cryinoverwangxian, whose comment has received a lot more than 1,000 upvotes, warned of what OP’s fiance’s a reaction to his replacing the iPad could mean for his family’s future.
“If Spencer had learned your fiance wouldn’t replace it and would make her wait ’til later, how would she experience your soon to be wife?” they questioned. “Life is approximately a lot more than her wedding.”
“Take this incident as a window to your own future life,” Redditor u/unpopularcryptonite echoed, receiving a lot more than 7,000 upvotes. “Visualize where your daughter is on your own fiance’s priority list.”
Newsweek reached out to u/No_Masterpiece7661 for comment.